I’ve gone through several transformations in my life.

My communication has been the greatest evolution. Going from an unhealthy, repressed, sarcastic delivery - to an open, honest, and vulnerable expression. Just like everything it’s not perfect, I still catch myself falling into past patterns and consciously have to put effort into my delivery. It’s light years from where it used to be, and I’m grateful for that.

My life now is something I always wanted when I was younger. I have the most amazing partner who loves passionately and pushes me to be the best version of myself. My daughters are unique, fierce young women who will undoubtedly make their mark on the world. I live where and how I always wanted to. My jobs and hobbies have always brought me joy. Every year I set new goals and work hard to reach them.

That’s what’s so amazing about going through a major transformation. Things that were previously viewed as, not for me, too lofty, or just selfish - are now viewed as welcomed, appreciated, and worthy. I grew up with a lot of guilt, as many people have. Religious guilt and family guilt were the major contributors. Working through those as an adult, I’ve come to accept - those things that were thrust upon me, are not my story. I decide the who, what, where, when, and why of my life.

Over the years, all my jobs have either been teaching, coaching, or assisting others in some way. When I was younger, I coached wheelchair basketball. It really challenged my perspectives and helped to expand my view of the world. I then translated those experiences into Special Education. Assisting students with a variety of needs taught me a lot about myself. Things that were frustrating or triggering, forced me to look inward and discover aspects of that I’d previously suppressed. After five years in Special Education, I was ready for a change of pace.

I spent the next five years at a therapeutic program teaching healthy communication and coping mechanisms. It was hands down - the most transformative experience of my life. In the process of helping others through struggles, countless aspects of myself grew by leaps and bounds. I credit that job for my ability to communicate well and have healthy relationships. During that time, I also survived being struck by lightning. It drastically changed the course of my life. Lots of pain and rehab followed, but I’m grateful for what that experience taught me. Shortly after that, I had the idea for a sci-fi novel series and began writing. It took me a number of years, but I published it and immediately began writing the sequel. The entire writing and publishing process is something I never thought I would do, but I'm so grateful I took the leap.

Taking an idea and making it come to life is one of my favorite things in this world. My most recent job before moving to Colorado, was teaching and coaching at Wake Forest University. I’ve worked with almost every age group, kids through older adults. College age students was my final frontier. I felt lucky to witness and guide them through major shifts as they prepared for the ‘real world’.

Coaching is a relationship. Like any successful relationship, it works best if both parties are fully invested. I only maintain a few clients at any given time so I can fully commit myself to each of them and their journey.

I expect my clients to be fully committed. Transformations can be challenging and daunting at times. It requires resilience and determination.

In return, I show up every week ready to listen, reflect, challenge, encourage, motivate, and provide accountability. This process is extremely successful when clients are willing to take what we discuss in sessions and apply it.

I would be too. If I read all of this 10+ years ago, I would have first, been jealous. Who are they to have everything they want? Why can’t I? Then, I probably would have dismissed it and moved on.

It wasn’t until I got fed up with how things were playing out for me in life that my mindset changed. I reached a point where I was tired of seeing others obtain things or achieve things and wondering when it would be my turn.

Transformations aren’t instant. I knew my current state wasn’t what I wanted, but the vision of myself in the future seemed so far off and unattainable. It took a lot of work and a lot of dedication - day after day, week after week, for years… to get to the point I’m at today.

Transforming your life into what you want it is possible.

What do you want for your life?